• Anonymous -4 months ago

  Hi Rabbi, 

   

  In regards to your recent shiur.

  I believe that it's a great mistake in today's therapeutic society that marriages shouldn't be in a way of unconditional love.

   

  The only true healing only comes when in a real life relationship two individuals accept each other unconditionally, not only by a therapist making you feel accepted. You definitely need also outside help but it's not in place of it. Unfortunately some children couldn't get unconditional love from parents, for what ever reason and if they don't receive it from someone it's very painful especially if there is also life experiences of hurt.

   

  There is only one condition for unconditional love in marriage, to be interested in this relationship, not challenge free.

   

  Thier are people that thier spouses are physically not well and not much functional and they don't consider the option of divorce, why are mental issues different, when the healing is actually dependent on the relationship.

   

  Why ahvas yisroel is taught to be unconditional and a marriage not?

   

  I understand this needs to be said right because people could use this abuseivly. Put not saying this is equally problematic for those that need this help.

   

  Thank you.

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  Alter Egoz -4 months ago

  "Unconditional love doesn't work in marriage"

  One must constantly work at the marriage. But, isn't it perhaps dafka because of the unconditional love.that motivates a spouse to to constantly work on it  

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  Alter Egoz -4 months ago

  "Marriage is a combination of 2 distinct entities"???

  But, didn't we learn that al pi kabbala, a husband and wife are 2 halves of a neshoma? 

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Likkutei Torah Matos V'Eisha #3

Rabbi YY Jacobson

• July 29, 2024
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• 23 Tamuz 5784
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Classes in this Series

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  1 hr 52 min

  Likkutei Torah Matos V'Eisha #4

  When G-d — And the Self — Become the Source of Shame, the Snake Has Taken Me Captive

  When We Heal the Sin but Not the Shame — We Are Scratching the Surface

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  1 hr 32 min

  Likkutei Torah Matos V'Eisha #2

  Why Are Many Marriages Failing Today?

  Has Our Generation Become Too Obsessed With Emotions ? How Do You Create Passion in a Relationship?

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  1 hr 16 min

  Likkutei Torah Matos V'Eisha #1

  Never Detach, Even When Your Child Is Obnoxious

  Beneath His/Her Pain, Your Child is Craving Attachment; Beneath Your Pain, You Are Craving Attachment

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  32 min

  Likkutei Torah Matos Maamar Veshama Aviha #2

  How Love Heals From Trauma

  When Your Child is Broken, Attachment Is the Way to Go

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  1 hr 9 min

  Likkutei Torah Matos Maamar Veshama Aviha #1

  Why So Many Stringent Laws in Judaism?

  If You Don't See the Love Pulsating Through Each Halacha, You Missed the Point

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  1 hr 4 min

  Why Did the Rabbis Make So Many Decrees?

  Where the Deepest Love Shines -- The Secret of the Oral Torah -- Likkutei Torah Parshas Matos Maamar: Veshoma Aviha