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  Gitty Stern -8 months ago

  I am unable to see this shiur as its still as a youtube stream, is it possible to see it another way?

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    sara -8 months ago

    https://www.theyeshiva.net/jewish/9270/lecture-for-avnei-chein-israel-confroting-the-mental-health-stigma

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• Anonymous -8 months ago

  Touched deep inside...hit home hard

  Once again you give over so open and honestly 

  Inspiration for all 

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    YY Jacobson -8 months ago

    Thanks so so much. it means so much to me. We are all here for each other. 

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• Anonymous -8 months ago

  Amazing ! Spot on

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  Danny -9 months ago

  Question for Rabbi YY

  Thank you, Rabbi, for your deeply insightful, objective, and compassionate guidance. In the context of dealing with mental illness within a marriage, especially when a spouse is diagnosed with a personality disorder, how does one navigate the added challenges? These challenges include the healthy spouse's struggle to maintain their own mental well-being amidst the chaos, the impact on the children, and instances of gaslighting. It seems professionals, including rabbis knowledgeable about such situations, often refrain from advising on whether the marriage should be dissolved. This hesitation persists even as the family dynamics grow increasingly complex, affecting everyone involved. Could you offer your perspective on how to approach these extraordinarily difficult decisions, especially considering the profound uncertainty and the wellbeing of the children?

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  • Anonymous -9 months ago

    Excellent question 

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    Chesky -5 months ago

    I'm not a rabbi so I'm not very qualified to answer this. However, I don't see anyone else piping in - especially, Rabbi Jacobson. For one, I'm very familiar with Mental health suffering and also from Physical health problems too; in my own family.

    Let's think about this by analyzing a situation: Chalila - a spouse was diagnosed with the machla (r"l) and the house is in disarray. Spouse is in and out the hospital - even going to Germany or other countries for special treatment. The other spouse, tends to all their needs and even takes off from work to help with critical situations and family disruptions. The family is told that "spouse: is very sick and the house will go through turbulence for a while. It's on and off for 3 years ("H"Y, "R"L) but with the grace of Hashem the tefillos were successful in having the sick healed; B"H.

    A year later, nebach (r"l), the spouse that was SO dedicated for THREE whole years, ends up in a severe mental disorder. People around him aren't sympathetic enough - many blame them - others say it's EXAGERATED - others blame the family and genetics; everyone has a stupid svorah but no compassion! Who should have compassion if not for the healthy spouse? In this situation, it's even more disconcerting because just 4 years ago, the ill spouse took care of the THEN sick spouse.

    No, I cannot write more - it's heartbreaking to see this. Maybe the stigma didn't change and physical illness is better handled because OUR MINDS understand it better. Is it all about us??? I know we don't take vows like the goyim do but isn't our bond a much strong commitment?

    Being cheated into a mental health (or physical, for that matter), is understandable and needs to be handles with sensitivity - but THIS? H"Y.

    Rabbi, PLEASE answer to these messages. Don't ignore me because I've been on both ends l"a. Sorry that I’m taking this bad but it hurts…

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Rabbi YY Jacobson

• March 17, 2024
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