• Anonymous -3 years ago

  Quarantine emotion

  Hi Rabbi

  You mention that if you can pin point your emotions then it's possible to deal with it. 

  In these difficult times I have been dealing with temporary depression (comes and goes), and am fully aware when it's effecting me, but how do I fight it off when it's taking over? 

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  liba -3 years ago

  Once again, thank you for a most insightful, magnificent shiur. What an eye-opening lesson!! Since watching this shiur I find myself with a heightened awareness as I decide anything! Unbelievable...
  
  Thank you so much as well for this week’s essay. It moved me deeply and inspired me tremendously, especially in regards to Tfilla...

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  Moshe -3 years ago

  Is 100% objectivity possible? Was it a bribe or something else?

  I would say that objectivity, like most things, can be measured on a sliding scale. Of course, an outright bribe will cause recusal. In Moshe 's case even a veiled stale compliment was enough for him to recuse and turn to the Boss. But such deferrals will not always be  possible. Not every jewish leader has such a hot  line. 

    Then there is the very subtle biases that all people have by virtue of their upbringing, circumstances   personality   etc. How would a beis din  of only men judge a case with a woman? 

    I would say that when a judge, or even anyone in a position of deciding a matter,  has absolutely nothing to  gain either way, and only had his own unique personal biases, we approach as much objectivity as we can get. 

    Notice many Supreme Court decisions are 5-4, or any other split. That means that there is  no one "right" legal conclusion but 2 (or more) possible outcomes.  Tge difference between  one outcome by one group and another is bias. It cannot be avoided totally.  

    When Moshe refused to decide the case of the daughters of Tzelofchad,  he immediately turned to Hashem. We are assuming here that it was because of the "bribe" of a compliment that their father sided with him 39 years earlier.

    Maybe not? Maybe he just didn't know the answer like when he turned to  Hashem also for the pesach sheni question. Maybe he couldn't figure out novel questions not explicitly dealt with in the Torah Hashem gave him? 

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  BD -3 years ago

  Jacuzzi/hot mikve?

  Nice idea.

  Neither was in Beis Hamikdosh

  But the stone/marble floors could be painful for any Cohen who had to serve barefoot, particularly the Cohen Godol on Yom Kippur who was 'on the run' from dawn to night...

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  Moshe -3 years ago

  The dust of the dust of a bribe

  Ok. The 5 sisters "bribed" Moshe with a veiled stale compliment.  He, being Moshe, considered himself bribed and so turned to Hashem for the answer. 

    But, later judges and legislators and rabbis and botei din of the yidden didn't have such a "hot line" to Hashem. How would they figure out the answers to  such questions, bribed with small or large bribes or  not? Moshe had not only to give over all the Torah he received from Hashem, but also the methodology of deriving new answers for new questions from the Torah.  (Not the 13 pronciples). 

     By considering himself bribed here, and relying on his personal "hot line" Moshe did not set up the way for future non-hot line leaders to answer.

     Also. The  pesach sheni question was also novel and Moshe also  turned to  Hashem for the answer. Was he bribed then too? 

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  david -3 years ago

  Awesome inspiring stuff - as always!

  Thnx so much Rabbi - exercising the body and the neshama at the same time.

   

  Some of the important lessons you mentioned, this notion of accepting and acknowledging our biases and weaknesses - and how it's actually a strength to do so...  reminds me of the vort I once heard from, if I'm not mistaken, Rabbi Yossi Denberg. He asked what's the opposite of bad. Well, you know when a rabbi asks such a question there's some sort of trick going on! So I didn't respond with "good." He answered that the opposite of bad is really perfect! This idea of perfection. He went on to explain that he sees it a lot when people are looking for shidduchim - the perfect match... the perfect partner, etc. And they come with a checklist of items searching for this so-called perfect person, that of course doesn't exist.And so too for the perfect job, the perfect vacation, the perfect anything. Like you basically spoke about... we're made up of these biases and imperfections and that makes us human, not robots.

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• Anonymous -3 years ago

  Thank you for the meaningfu insights in this morning's shiur.S.Gramal 

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  Sara Metzger -3 years ago

  Question for Rabbi YY

  So it seems our ability to be objective is always an issue, whether we are judges or not. So we are aware, honest abut it. Is that enough to make us less so? Less. ot objective?

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    sara -3 years ago

    less not objective*

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  chaim akerman -3 years ago

  why by children it doesn't work so well? they don't see what parents do for them.

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  Sara Metzger -3 years ago

  Question for Rabbi YY

  The question of whether we can be objective or not is almost like whether we have free choice or not.

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• Anonymous -3 years ago

  A git vort

  A giten

  I recently heard from you a vort on the posuk of לא אוכל לשלחך כי אם ברכתנו that Yakov was teaching us to emerge from dificuilt situations more blessed than before, would you mind sharing with us the mekor of this beautiful teitch?

  Thanks!

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Pinchas Women's Class

Rabbi YY Jacobson

• July 7, 2020
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  1 hr 46 min

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  1 hr 46 min

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  1 hr 20 min

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  1 hr 36 min

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  1 hr 29 min

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  1 hr 50 min

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  1 hr 22 min

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