• Anonymous -4 years ago

  I am a teacher

  i am currently a teacher, and a student of mine just told me that she had a chumash teacher who told the class, every time they asked a question, that she is an Apikores!!!! I couldn;t believe that we still have such things today!!!!!

  I really appreciated this class!!!!!

  Thank you!!!!!!!!!!

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• Anonymous -6 years ago

  Questions, questions, questions

  A number of points regarding questions:

  • As a kid, I drove my father crazy with questions. Why do we stand when we say מזמור שיר ליום השבת on Friday night, but sit when we say it during פסוקי דזמרא? Why is the שמונה עשרה of מנחה on Shabbos shorter than the other Tefillos? Klutz kashes? Maybe. He didn't feel too secure in his own knowledge, but he had some patience for it.
  • I took my oldest daughter to Rabbi Mordechai Friedlander, זצ"ל when she was 6 years old. She asked, "If Yaakov had Ruach HaKodesh, how could he not know that Yosef was alive?" He answered, "That is a great question. The answer is that Ruach HaKodesh means you know what Hashem wants you to know." He was very impressed with the question, and she felt great about the entire exchange!
  • My entire sefer (ואתה תחזה) is based on questions. (I'm still a nudnik!)

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  Chaim -6 years ago

  I Do Not Know

  B"H I've doing this with my kids forever. "I don't know, I'll ask, I'll look it up and get back to you" etc... For myself, the shiurim/Rabbi's I enjoy the must, are the one's that say they don't know. I can't stand Rabbi's who instead of saying "I don't know", they start to stutter and break their teeth and making a fool of themselves and the Torah they are teaching. It's ok and even appreciated to say "I don't know", when you really don't know.

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  Yaakov -6 years ago

  My Shame

  I just want to tell you that I listened to your speech regarding that kid who asked a question and was shut about it. While I was listening I burst out crying in my heart the pane was so hard I just couldn't handle it. Here is why. When it came to learning as a kid I wasn't the most likable student for my rebbis since a very young age so the love for learning faded away. Now I'm talking from כתה ב׳ and up. I'm not going to tell you all the hitting I got and verbal abuse I got and so on. But to stick to the pint of asking questions. So in 'כתה ח (about 12 years old) I decided a new year a new start I'm almost bar mitzva I'm going to start asking question in middle shuir, just like all the smart boys. but because I was so disliked as gemureh student till that age, I couldn't get my words or questions out while the sheer, cuz I figured that it's not smart enough. so what I did is I waited till he finished the sheer and usually he would make the boys have a chavrusa and study what we just learned and if we have questions we can go ask him. So first of all while everyone had a chavrusa I was always the one left alone without a chavursa or I had to wait the longest to get one (didn't feel to good trust me) but anyways when it came to the part where I had my question I felt so good that I can finally go ask my rebbi and he should tell me wowow that's an amazing question. So I tell my chavrusa hold on I have a quick question I want to ask the Rebbi, so I walk up to him and I took all my courage energy and fear and put it behind me for one last time. and asked my rebbi. I was so SO proud of my self that I can try it one more time. the response I got broke me for life and never ever did I ask or even bothered to ask or even bother to think to go ask another question. the response was "oh go ask so so and maybe he knows" (basically go ask one of the boys in the class), turned his head away and went to the next kid who had a smart question and answered him. The pain I had that day was and still is so hurtful and when I hear you talk about this? it just broke my heart into peaces to hear that another kid went though a similar thing. I just burst out crying I never wanted to use my head for anything I didn't want answers to anything anymore my questions as a child in school was never answered or wasn't smart enough for my rabbi to answer so he sent me to ask the question to a kid in the class. Why?? Because I wasn't the smartest in class? instead I was hit and punished for not learning enough gosh this is so painful

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  Chaim Bochner -6 years ago

  About Parnasah and Rebbish Kunder

  B"H, I was raised by parents that valued hard and honest work, in a galician community. However, many don't see it that way and it's pathetic. I'll share something I heard from a good source about the Bobover Rebbe, Reb Shlomo zt"l. His yahrzeit was R"Ch Av, middoso shel Aharon: The Rebbe, for most of his leadership years used to give chalokos of his challah to bochrim and yungerleit that were of rebbish dynasty. Once while distributing to those on line, he stopped and spoke to the entire olem, saying as follows: "You might think I'm biased towards the rebbeshe kinder and it seems unfair. Let me explain because it's the opposite of what you think. I understand that since they have more holy zeida's, there avodah must be higher and more lofty l. In addition, their yeitzer is stronger in every imaginable way and they might forget and become haughty, so I'm reminding them that their from illustrious heritage and to not mess it up" Seems like we really made our own religion... As far as the other issues, including the rebbushe rubbish, so to speak, Rabbi, you are on target 100%. We do need your help Rabbi to guide us how to ask our leaders to stop and listen to us! You're insights and mehalchim are beautiful but what about the uvchein? We need to change our mindsets but also save our generation from this "new religion", so to speak... Please respond.

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  Adam -6 years ago

  Some Educators Are Superb

  You hear a lot of complaints about problems and I know that you know that there is a lot of good out there but it helps as well to hear it. My son's yeshiva in Lakewood called the ice cream truck to come to the block of Yeshiva thinking the Rosh Yeshiva was gone, when they saw his car coming they scattered thinking he would be none too pleased at an ice cream truck parked outside yeshiva. The Rosh Yeshiva proceeded to walk over to the truck and ask the driver how much is an ice cream he then took out his wallet and paid for ice cream for the boys and walked into Yeshiva and told them to go out and enjoy! The same Rosh Yeshiva who called my son in at the end of the year and while complimenting him on his growth this year told him the whole yeshiva was worth opening just for him.

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• Anonymous -6 years ago

  our chinuch in danger!

  a very sad state of affairs in our chadarim. hopefully new rebbeim will get the proper training to greet every child's question with respect. be happy that the kids want to know in contrast to the kids who won't want to ask and will be turned off. chanan

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  AJ -6 years ago

  A beautiful question, with a beautiful answer

  כלי יקר שמות פרק י פסוק ח ...ועוד ב"פ נלך ודאי אחד מהם מיותר כי היה לו לומר בנערינו ובזקנינו בבנינו ובבנותינו נלך... וביאור לכל הספיקות הללו הוא, כי פרעה לא שאל את משה מי שילך אלא גזר אומר שודאי לא ילכו כ"א הזכרים שדרכם לזבוח, ואמר לכו עבדו את ה' אלהיכם ושוטטו נא בכל קצוי עולם ופוק חזי מאי עמא דבר מי ומי שדרכם לילך, לכך אמר כפל מי ומי ר"ל אם תימינו ואם תשמאילו לראות בכל מקום הנהוג מי שדרכם לילך לזבוח, ובזה מיושב לשון ההולכים שקאי על כל ההולכים בכל העולם ומשם תראו וכן תעשו גם אתם כפי הנהוג, והשיב משה בנערינו ובזקנינו נלך כפי הנראה שלפי פשוטו נלך מיותר לגמרי, ר"ל שניהם מיותרים שהרי קאי על שאלת מי ומי ההולכים, והיה לו להשיב בנערינו ובזקנינו בבנינו וגו' ויהיה הכל קאי על ההולכים, אלא ודאי שאינו מוסב על ההולכים, ור"ל אתה אומר לנו לילך כדרך ההולכים שבכל העולם אבל אנחנו לא כן נעשה אלא בנערינו ובזקנינו נלך, והבדל נלך מן ההולכים כי לא קרב זה אל זה, ואע"פ שבכל ההולכים אין הולכים לזבוח כי אם מי שדרכם לזבוח, מ"מ אנחנו נלך מכל וכל. ונתן טעם לדבר כי חג ה' לנו, כי בשלמא כל ההולכים שאינן הולכים כ"א לזבוח דין הוא שלא ילכו כ"א מי שדרכן לזבוח, אבל אנחנו זולת העבודה דהיינו חג לה', יש עלינו מצוה אחרת עוד והיא שמחת החג, זה"ש כי חג ה' לנו. צריך להיות גם לנו, וידוע שאין שמחת האדם שלימה כ"א בזמן. שאשתו ובניו וכל קניניו עמו, כי איך ישיר את שיר ה' על אדמת נכר ואשתו ובניו וקנינו נתונים בערבון בעדו, והשרוי בלא אשה שרוי בלא שמחה, ולכך אמר ב"פ נלך לעשות ב' חלוקות בההולכים כי נערינו וזקנינו נלך לעבוד, ובנינו ובנותינו ילכו לשם שמחה ר"ל שנשמח אנחנו עמהם לקיים מצות ה' עלינו ליתן חציו לה' וחציו לנו ולבנינו, לשם שמחה: A beautiful question, with a beautiful answer. And if you hadn’t asked the question now at this shiur, how many of us would know this Kli Yakar? Yasher Koach gadol!

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  Yitzchak -6 years ago

  Shame on His Teacher

  The Klei Yakar asks this very question in his commentary on Parshas Bo! Would the teacher mock the Kli Yakar too?

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