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What Yosef Taught His Brothers About Guilt & Anguish

Who Is Responsible for My Triggers and Mistakes? Me or G-d?

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This weekly women's class was presented on Tuesday, Parshas Vayigash, 3 Teves, 5782, December 7, 2021, at Bais Medrash Ohr Chaim in Monsey, NY.

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    yetta -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    After listening to the profound and incredibly brilliant shiur on Yosef and Yehudah,  I received my answer! What a comfort! What a powerfully encouraging message for life and self development. It is truly directive towards        "authentic " living. 

    You mentioned some of the reasons people resist acknowledging errors and accepting responsibility.  I would like to add to that list:  Fear of failure as a human being; insecurity of one's own worth independent of mistakes. I feel that before one can take the leap, there needs to be a safety net. The concept that you offered is the greatest safety net. Moreover it applauds the human being who makes mistakes and corrects them with real honesty and self transformation, as the greatest hero and the ultimate model of a Jew. This truly paves the way for introspection and a life of continuous  adjustment.  For without it, the thought of the blood on our hands is terrifying and immobilizing.Fortified with the power of Teshuva and the knowledge that one can feel every bit as worthy  after going through the process, as before one messed up, the temptation to "rewrite " history or suppress it, is greatly diminished.

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    Isaac -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    I am trying to go to sleep and you are keeping me up!!!! 

    Please don't stop giving you lectures you are just amazing. Hatzlucha on all till 120

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

  • Anonymous -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    Unbelievable amazing class.   During my recent therapeutic journey, where I was struggling with the pain of my child going off the derech, I learned so many amazing lessons and learned how to take responsibility for my actions that caused my child so much pain. I learned to forgive myself. I learned that ultimately this journey brought me to a much higher place of recognizing Hashem and His brachas in my life. I went though this journey with a not yet frum therapist. From your shiurim I can now put that psychological  experience into frum words and concepts and am able to mesh my 2 realities into a higher reality and experience . Thank you. This has meant so much to me. 
    So many many people struggling with pain in their lives today. This kind of shiur can bring Moshiach. Thank you again for your gift of brilliance and ability to articulate concepts. 

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    Drew -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    Divine Timing

    Was discussing. CBT with one of my closest friends the other night. And the power of it. 

    It's all TORAH!!!

    BH

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

  • Anonymous -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    Thank you so much! This hits the spot, as in the essential whole and innocent spot behind all the illusions of brokenness and pain that we experience in our lives. This encourages us to do teshuva because of how good we really are, not because we have to control our "badness".
    When we look at ourselves and see "badness" we can fearfully/anxiously control this badness, or look deeper for the source of our "badness", where we find a wounded innocent part of ourselves that needs care. Caring for this wound is the love of teshuva meahava and is profoundly healing.

    It's by no means simple to do this. From my experience it's a struggle that's deeply painful, but as orchestrated by G-d it's also deeply and powerfully purposeful, meaningful and healing. It's a breakdown of a more superficial reality with the ability to reveal a deeper reality.

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    B. -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    Standing ovation

    Although every weeks shiur is a winner, today’s shiur was perhaps most incredible of all.  I would have sat and listened for another hour and I felt it was too short! 

    What an uplifting and liberating message! What a life altering gift!

    For me personally, this shiur was so tremendously empowering. Instead of guilt and pain, we can have freedom and future. Instead of remorse and regret we can have peace and happiness…

    These classes are gems, each one more powerful than a thousand sessions of therapy.

    May Hashem bentch Rabbi Jacobson with all the brochos in the Torah.

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    Sarah Goldberg -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    We confess sins in the plural

    All yidden are limbs of one body. When my brother sins, I am partly responsible. When he does a mitzvah I get part of the z'chus.

    Moreover, we are also responsible for one another. If my brother sins then perhaps I failed to teach him, to stop him, to guide him.

    Therefore it is fitting that the confession for any sin committed by anyone is made by everyone. 

    Hence,  The plural form.

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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      Isaac -3 שנים לִפנֵי

      See Derech Mitzvosecha Ahavas Yisroel for the insight there about why the Arizal had to confess his "sins," because we are all connected, all our souls are like one super organism, hence when I sin it effects you. And conversely.

      השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

  • Anonymous -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    G-has sent YOU!!!!

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    Sarah Goldberg -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    The Izbitche Rebbe suggests that because Yosef aka

    The prime Minister requested that Benyomin be brought down, so Yehuda can daresay that Yosef the PM was somehow complicit or triggered Benyomin to steal. Yehuda at that point didn't know who the PM was, so it's really preposterous to say or suggest that the PM was putting a stumbling block before Benyomin just because he demanded to bring him to Egypt.  Of course from Yosef's point of view, who knows he's framing again and again,  he knows it's not only a stumbling block but a frame job. 

     Yehuda however doesn't know this and it's another super-chutzpah manoever to suggest that the PM is at all even partly responsible for the theft.  

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    Sarah Goldberg -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    "ATTA", now implies teshuva

    The word now,  in any language means the present, for the tome being, etc. 

    A person might have a "hirur" (moment's thought) teshuva and that is fine. And that's enough time for a rasha to do teshuva and marry on the condition that he's a tzaddilk, but it might very be fleeting. 

    If the intent of the word in general is teshuva perhaps a better word (?rewrite the Chumash?)  would be "henceforth". 

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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      Moshe Dee -3 שנים לִפנֵי

      You mean we need to translate ועתה more accurately.

      השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

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    Pam Axelrod -3 שנים לִפנֵי

    Wow!!

    השיבו לתגובה זו.סמן את התגובה הזו.

Vayigash Women's Class

Rabbi YY Jacobson

  • December 7, 2021
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Dedicated in loving memory of Esther bas Yitzhak Horgen, for the yartzeit, 5 Teves. May G-d avenge her blood.
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