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Achashverosh & Haman in Therapy: The Psychological Brilliance of Esther

Reading the Megilah from a Psychological Perspective

2 hr 10 min

Class Summary:

Henry Kissinger may have been the world’s most famous Jewish diplomat, but he certainly was not the first. The Purim Megillah, named for Queen Esther, paints a picture of a smart, resourceful, courageous woman of faith. But a close reading of the story, and a proper analysis of her actions in the story also reveal her to be a masterful tactician and diplomat that even Kissinger would be blown away by.

The simple question is the purpose of Esther’s two banquets. What was the point of the first? And why wasn’t one enough? Why couldn’t she have asked what she needed the first time? These questions are answered in the Megillah by the change of a single word.

According to the Maharil, the main Purim miracle took place when Achashverosh had trouble falling asleep, yet his insomnia seem to have had no really influence on the Purim story. What actually happened that night? Why could he king not fall asleep?

The class examines the relationship between Joseph Stalin and the ruthless Lavrentiy Beria, and uses it as a parallel for that of Achashverosh and Haman. Understanding this relationship and an in-depth analysis of Achashverosh will help expose the brilliant maneuvering of Queen Esther and the purpose of her two banquets.

This class was presented on Sunday morning, 10 Adar, 5775, March 1, 2015, at Beis Medrash Ohr Chaim, Monsey, NY.

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    Chaim L -6 years ago

    I wanted to thank you for the time and obvious hard work you put into this website. 
    I have been listening to TheYeshiva.Net for the past year and have gained a tremendous amount from your shiurim. 
    I am 31-years-old. I grew up frum in Monsey (a child of Baalei teshuva through Chabad in the 70's). I now live in Far Rockaway with my wife and four children.
    I listened to your Purim shiur -Achashverosh & Haman in Therapy- and it changed how I view the Megillah completely. 
    Thank you very much for the chizuk you have given me,
    Have a great Shobbos,

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  • Anonymous -6 years ago

    svetlana

    is the name

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    משה -6 years ago

    מרדכי אסתר אחשוורוש

     כיצד ניתן להבין מצב מתמשך, שאסתר לפי הגרסה שהיתה אשתו/ביתו של  מרדכ ,נשארת עד סוף ימיה עם אחשוורוש כאשר מרדכי משנה למלך יוצא ו נכנס בארמון אחשוורוש במשך זמן ממושך ו פוגש כנראה את אסתר לא פעם אחת. בתקופת סיפור המגילה היה מצב שיוצאת מבית אחשוורוש וטובלת  והולכת למרדכי כל זמן שהיה סיכון  של פיקוח נפש לעם היהודי  ולהצלת העם ,שגם זה קשה להבין , אבל לאחר מכן איך הסתכלו על המצב הזה היהודים על אשה יהודית עם שני בעלים,ובנוסף  שאחד מהם הוא ראש הסנהדרין  ? איזה דוגמא זה מהווה לעם ישראל ? האם מותר מבחינה הלכתית   ליהודי לחיות בחטא אפילו בשביל הצלת העם   ? .אסתר מולידה בן לאחשוורוש ונעלמת מעם ישראל ,כל זה  לא נשמע הגיוני אלא אם כן נגיד שמרדכי נתן לה גט ,האמנם? כך היה   

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    shraga -7 years ago

    A wondrous shiur.

    Another way of looking at things (ayin ponim l'Torah):

    There was a machlokis between Mordechai and Esther in Avodas Hashem.

    Mordechai felt the way to mamtik dinim was Taanesim and sigufim. Saak v'Efer.

    Esther said NO.

    [It says in sefer Hamidos "Someone who is always happy, is matzliach". (Learned out from Medrish Rabba. The medrish says when Yosef Hatzadik came to Miztrayim, the possik says he was "Ish Matzliach" (by the way, no Rashi on the possik), The Medrish says it was because he was a "Gever Kofuz". The Matnas Kehuna there, says "Kofuz", loshon kefitz, because he danced; because of his dancing he was b'simcha, and because of his simcha he was matzliach. ]

    Esther felt the way to be successful is derech simcha.

    And Esther also knew that the zechus of the tefillas and fasts of Mordechai and klal Yisroel, wasn't enough, even when Achashverous told her (on 2 different occasions) "ad chatzu hamalchus". Because at those times, Haman was b'simcha. And it would be very difficult to push Haman down, even "Haman Hara Hazeh" as long as he was b'simcha.

    It was only by the last seuda, when Esther saw Haman in distress, she "pulled the trigger".

    And we also see that Min Hashomayim Esther had a haskoma in her disagreement with Mordechai. Because min Hashomayim, Mordechai was forced to be happy; being led around Shushan in Royal garments, on the Royal horse; (also having the opportunity to give Haman a few good kicks, tread on his back), etc.

    sources: HaRav Elimelech Biderman, choveret in Hebrew parshas Truma 5777; Sefer Hamidos, section Simcha part 2, with it's source from Medrish Rabba, (Parshas Vayeshev).

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    Odom -7 years ago

    לפי מה שאמר מעכ"ת לקשר ביאור האדמו"ר הזקן באופן מפלת המן להעלותו למדרגה שבטל ממילא, עם ביאור הבעש"ט מובא בספר אור מאיר באופן הריגת ושתי לגלות הקליפה בלי לבושים וממילא בטל מעליה, יובן בטוב טעם מאמר חז"ל שהרג את אשתו בשביל חבירו והרג את חבירו בשביל אשתו כי אופן הריגת שניהם היה ממש אחד!

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